Emotional Well-being

Minimalism

Minimalist Living is Abundant Living driven by a Minimalist Mindset.

This past year, I decluttered. Not my house per se but my life. This global pandemic helped me to slow down and reevaluate my priorities in life. It helped me to evaluate what I was giving all of my time, attention and energy to. This past year, I would go as far as saying I’ve adopted a minimalist mindset. And it has changed my life.

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Languish

Languishing. The duller of our delight and diminisher of our drive.

Current Mood? Languishing.“Languishing is a search for bliss in a bleak day, connection in a lonely week, or purpose in a perpetual pandemic.”~ Adam Grant

2020-2021 Mood 

FINALLY I have a word to describe what I’ve been experiencing in waves throughout 2020 and 2021. It’s not burnout because I still have energy. And it’s not depression because I don’t feel hopeless. According to organizational psychologist Adam Grant, LANGUISHING dulls your motivation and disrupts your ability to focus and one of the dangers of this emotional state is “NOT noticing the dulling of DELIGHT or the dwindling of DRIVE.”

I’m sure many (if not most) of us have experienced languishing as a result of all the chaos and crises happening in the world and in our personal lives. I know I have. Adam posits that our

“Fragmented attention is an enemy of engagement and excellence.”

If you’ve been experiencing fragmented attention like me these days, our ability to engage and be excellent is diminishing and that’s not good.

An Antidote to Languishing

So how do we get our FOCUS👀 back during these times so we can excel in our work and better engage with those we lead, love, work with and serve?Adam recommends setting boundaries (or limits) on WHO and WHAT gets our attention. He also recommends focusing on SMALL WINS each day—things that are meaningful to YOU. I like to think of SMALL WINS as “meaningful moments or activities” in my day.

 

Some of the most meaningful moments of my day are when I offer encouragement to a friend or provide some sort of spiritual, emotional or concrete support to help someone in need. 🙋🏽‍♀️For me, my small wins are when I contribute value to something OR someone.

 

Yesterday, one of my small wins was listening to a fellow sister share her story concerning how she had experienced a personal race-related trauma. Showing up to hear, validate and empathize with her story was one of my “small wins” for the day because helping others is meaningful and important to me.

 

I believe one way we can fight languishing is by creating white space (or margin) to facilitate meaningful moments in our day. Moments where we are fully present so we can fully love, support and serve others in meaningful ways.

How about you?

What meaningful moments will you create space for in an effort to combat your languishing? Remember, you’re not alone. But together, we can get out of our languishing and get back on the path to our flourishing🌱 Let’s set those “attention” boundaries and start making small wins a daily practice.

Defining Moments

How defining moments become turning points.

Can I just be real with you? For the past few years, I’ve been stacking on the pounds. Now, the pounds did not accumulate in a short time period. They slowly accumulated over a few years. But when my husband bought us a scale earlier this year, I finally mustered up the courage to weigh myself IN SECRET–and I was devasted.

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Life Disruptors

When Life Hands You Lemons.

This month I got my mammogram. I regret to say that I have not been making these screenings a priority for the past 4 years (since routine screenings should start at 40 years of age) but all that has changed since June of this year. As I have been taking major action to improve my overall health and well-being (which includes prioritizing my annual check-ups etc), I keep thinking about a very close friend of mine who just told me she has breast cancer.
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Grit

The Joy, Benefits and Gift of a GRIT mindset.

The secret to success and outstanding achievement in life isn’t about being a “genius”. It’s about your GRIT or the unique combination of your passion, purpose, and long-term perseverance. According to Dr. Angela Duckworth, the world’s leading expert on grit, GRIT is having PASSION + SUSTAINED PERSEVERANCE when it comes to achieving long-term goals.

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race related trauma

Rules of Engagement for Race Related Trauma

Like many of you, I am outraged and emotionally exhausted because of the wrongful race-related deaths (murders) of George Floyd, Breonna Taylor, and Ahmaud Arbery. Not only are many hearts on fire with anger, many businesses are literally on fire all over our nation because black and brown people do not feel seen, heard, understood, valued, cared for OR protected in this country.

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connection

Connect during Corona with these 3 Check-in Questions

This 2020 corona crisis (or any crisis for that matter) presents us with growth opportunities. If we let it. We have the wonderful opportunity to connect with God (read more on that HERE), ourselves (read more on that HERE), and others in ways that can help us grow beyond our current capacity. The question is “Will we capitalize on these opportunities for growth?” Just the other day, I stumbled across Oprah’s Instagram page where her wellness theme for the week was CONNECT. In her post, she asked her followers this question:

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