Self-Acceptance is Loving the Skin You’re In.
Growing up, did you ever wish you could change your appearance? Maybe you wished your nose was smaller or your lips were bigger. Maybe you wished you had an hourglass shape rather than an athletic or full-figured shape. May you wished you had straight hair instead of curly hair. For me, I wanted long, straight hair because heck. That’s what ‘Barbie’ had and she was the standard of beauty back in the 80’s right?
Or, If you didn’t relate to wanting to change some aspect of your appearance, maybe you wanted to change some aspect of your personality. Maybe you wanted to be more social rather than shy. Maybe you wanted to be more organized and planful instead of being so disorganized and spontaneous. Maybe you wanted to be a more flexible and agreeable person instead of being so rigid and challenging.
I think you’d agree that many of us have struggled (or still do struggle) with accepting every part of who we are—-perceived flaws and all. I know I have. Self-acceptance is really about having a positive attitude about who you are —in other words, having a positive sense of self or identity. And according to research, high levels of self-acceptance contributes to our psychological well-being.
Do you feel confident and positive about who you are?
When you compare yourself to your friends and acquaintances, does your comparison make you feel good about who you are?
Would you say that you like most parts of your personality?
Do you feel a sense of satisfaction with the core of who you are despite any perceived deficiencies, inadequacies, personal weaknesses, flaws, past behaviors and choices?
On the Struggle Bus?
Adversity and Self-Perception
Rejection and Self-Concept
“Look at me! Are you serious calling me a warrior? How can you call me that? Don’t you know the type of family I come from? Are you not aware of the type of environment I had to live through? The adverse experiences I had to endure in my youth? Aren’t you familiar with my background? Are you not aware of the adversities and traumatic experiences I’ve had to live though? Can’t you see how my experiences have impacted the way I see my self? I’m nothing. I’m weak. I’m no warrior. I’m simply not enough. I can’t possibly be who you say I am.”
We are Mighty in God
…”at the core of our self-acceptance is being convinced of our God-acceptance.”
Your Personal Challenge
In an effort to help you practice greater self-acceptance, try these strategies below.
- Stop comparing who you are to your family and friends. Start celebrating who God uniquely created YOU to be. Craft a “Uniquely Me” list highlighting your unique personality traits and talents. Don’t be afraid to ask those closest to you for help on this if you get stuck. Then, hang it up or post it somewhere where you are most likely to see it every day. Then read it daily to remind yourself of how incredible and wonderfully made you are.
- Stop coveting the gifts and strengths of others and start being content with the gifts God has given you. Create a list highlighting your top 10 strengths. If you don’t know, ask those around you. You can even take the StrengthsFinder Assessment for a small cost of a book purchase to discover your top 5 strengths. This was life-changing and so encouraging and empowering for me.
- Stop the self-criticism. Start speaking greatness and declaring your worth! Create a personal affirmation list declaring who you are by God’s grace. Declare your divine greatness with boldness and God-confidence.
DECLARE WHO YOU ARE
The greatest thing you can do to boost your self-acceptance is declare your worth and acceptance in Christ. Declare YOUR DIVINE IDENTITY! You are a child of God. You are loved relentlessly by God. You are the head and not the tail. You are a mighty warrior. A conqueror. You can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens you. You are royalty. You are powerful and unstoppable in Christ.
You are a friend of God. And you, my friend, have been equipped with EVERYTHING YOU NEED to succeed and prosper in life. See yourself the way God sees you. And call yourself as God calls you. For you are God’s masterpiece, fearfully and wonderfully made to do great and wonderful things. See it. Say it. Believe it.
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