Is the voice in your head holding you back? Use this framework to reset your mindset so you can move forward and win!
THE BIG VOICE IN MY HEAD
I’d like to tell you a story. This story is about a little girl who had a big dream of becoming a writer. She wanted her words to inspire, encourage and give hope to the heart of every reader who came across her written words. But there was this one BIG problem, the gremlin. You see the gremlin was the loud, mean, nasty and demeaning voice she always heard inside of her head. It would always say things to her such as:
“You can’t do or become ______ because you’re not smart enough, talented enough or good enough. You’ll never be good at _______. Give up on that dream. Who do you think you are? You’re not capable of achieving that. You’re not gifted to do that. You don’t have what it takes to succeed. So why even try? Don’t even bother. Accept who you are because you’ll never be more.”
I don’t know how that hits you but can you relate? Do you have an inner critic (or gremlin as some therapists and psychologists would call it) screaming in your head? Telling you who you are and who you aren’t–what you can and can’t do—what you can’t achieve or who you will never become?
What I do know is that my inner critic has been with me since childhood. And I bet yours has too. That’s where it often starts. Now, I don’t have the time to get into all the research and theory on the origin of the inner critic in this blog post– but you’ll just have to trust me on this. Please keep reading on.
Silencing Your Inner Critic
The good news is you can learn how to silence your inner critic. You can learn strategies for taming that ‘gremlin’ in your head. But it will require you to raise your self-awareness and confront your critic. You will need to learn how to become more mindful of your mind because what happens in your head, influences your heart (how you feel) and your hands (how you live). I mean. That’s what I had to do to tame mine. And let me tell you. The result has been transformational for me! So what is a mindset? Well. I’m so glad you asked.
The Power of our Mindsets
A mindset is our mental attitude, underlying core beliefs or state of mind. Mindsets influence how we see, think and feel about ourselves, others and God. It’s how we evaluate ourselves and the world around us based on the sum total of our life experiences—the good, the bad, and the ugly. Our mindsets shape our lives because they influence the way we feel, make decisions, relate to ourselves, others and God. And it also influences how we cope with and respond to life’s storms and stressors.
When our mindsets are left unchecked, or unquestioned due to a lack of self-awareness, they can become toxic and serve to decrease the quality of our physical, mental and emotional health and well-being. I had quite a few mindsets that I had to start confronting in my own life before I could start living a happier, healthier and more successful life. One of the first mindsets I needed to confront was my Fixed Mindset. A fixed mindset is one that believes current abilities and intelligence are permanently set and can’t be changed. Fixed Mindsets:
- Avoid challenges and stick with what is familiar and comfortable. It says: “I’m not able to _____ or capable of doing ________”
- Give up in the face of obstacles. It says: “I can’t overcome…..handle or bear….”
- View effort as pointless and useless. It says: “It doesn’t matter. My efforts won’t make a difference in my life”
- See criticism as a personal insult or attack. It says: “I must not be good enough.”
- Believe failures are setbacks. It says: “I’m not good at this. I’m not capable.”
How is your mindset?
Has a fixed mindset been stopping you from growing and succeeding in life? Do you believe you are not able to succeed in life because you “don’t have what it takes?” Have you believed your inner critic so much that you have stopped goal-setting, planning and putting in any effort? Or has a fixed mindset caused you to stop showing up in life, daring to dream and be courageous? Have you stopped pursuing something because “it’s something I’m not good at?” If so, it’s time to reset your mindset!
We become what we think
The Word of God says “as a man (or woman) thinks in his (or her) heart so is he (or she).” This is the power of our thoughts. We literally become what we think. They say we are what we eat. The same holds true for what we think because our thoughts form and direct our lives. But I have good news. Our brains are like muscles and can be exercised or trained to align with the mind of Christ. We can learn how to take every thought captive and make it obey Christ (2 Cor. 10:4-5). So how can we do this practically? Well, my friend. I’m so glad you asked.
Operation Mindset R.E.S.E.T.
Because our mind, body, and spirit are all connected, what we do in one area influences the others. Phil 4:8 tells us to think on things that are true, noble, pure, lovely, admirable, praiseworthy and excellent. When we choose to lead our thoughts in this direction, we will lead healthier and happier lives. So how can someone foster a growth mindset in a practical way? We must practice:
- Perceiving and embracing obstacles as opportunities for growth and learning
- Persisting with a strong effort in the face of setbacks, difficulties, and hardships
- Viewing failure as fuel instead of a fatality; and temporary rather than permanent
- Viewing feedback as critical information instead of personal criticism
- Inviting others in to help with personal growth and learning something new
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