I am SO GRATEFUL to have been able to enjoy another year of life and celebrate my birthday!! Although this past year included some BIG disappointments, I’ve learned more about myself (my strengths and weaknesses) and I’ve grown SO much through leadership pain and pressure. I am convinced the things that occurred in my life this past year did not happen to me–they happened for me. For my growth AND my good!!
While doing a bit of research on the mind and negative thought patterns, I came across an inner critic quiz that helps you discover your inner critic patterns so you can create a plan for how to change them. Now I won’t list the 7 types of critics revealed in the quiz (you can discover them by taking the quiz via the link below), but I do want to start this post by defining ‘inner critic’.
I’m flawed. You’re flawed. We’re all flawed. Therefore, none of us are perfect. Yet ‘perfect‘ is the image so many of us strive for. As if perfection is something we can actually achieve. Rather than view our flaws or imperfections as gifts or opportunities for God to show himself strong in our flaws, we see them as deficiencies, inadequacies, and disabilities.
Fish living in a goldfish bowl are not living their best life. Because most fish bowls lack a filtration system to keep their environment clean and free of toxins, very few goldfish survive for more than a few weeks. A bowl simply can’t provide a suitable living environment for any fish to live a healthy and long life.Likewise, an unfiltered or poorly filtered mind does not lead to living life more abundantly. When our thoughts go unchecked and unfiltered, we develop toxic mindsets that cause us to lead unhealthy, unproductive, and unhappy lives. But a new way of thinking will always precede a new way of living.
I’d like to tell you a story. This story is about a little girl who had a big dream of becoming a writer. She wanted her words to inspire, encourage and give hope to the heart of every reader who came across her written words. But there was this one BIG problem, the gremlin. You see the gremlin was the loud, mean, nasty and demeaning voice she always heard inside of her head. It would always say things to her such as:
Have you ever wondered why we (especially women) are so apologetic? Were we born this way or were we socialized this way? Maybe it’s not either/or but both/and. Do you feel like you always need to apologize for who you are or the decisions you make?
All of us have (or will) will experience seasons in life when we feel tired and broken down from the storms and trials of just living. But the key is making the decision to persevere and rise up. For some storms and struggles in life, we may find ourselves weak and unable to rise up. There are some things we simply can’t handle on our own. And it’s in those moments and situations of weakness when we are to call upon God to step in.
Have you ever heard the expression “play your life forward”? In other words, playing your life forward is simply imagining how your life will turn out based on your current decision-making. It’s basically having the ability to predict a future life outcome based on the decisions you are currently making today.
What if I told you that you had the power to change your story and therefore your life. Would you agree? Outside of God, I believe I hold the most influence concerning whether I stay stuck–or get unstuck in life. The level to which I am willing and able to activate my faith in God will be the level to which I will stay stuck or move forward in life.
The truth is a majority of people don’t like change because it is something beyond their control. Who doesn’t want to control their lives eh? Change is extremely uncomfortable and unpredictable. Yet change is the only constant in life. I love this quote that says: