Will you grow through or only get through corona?
When was the last time you focused your efforts on taking care of yourself? In times of chaos and crisis, it’s easy to push yourself (yet again) to the side in an effort to care for others. But you can’t pour into others from an empty cup. Right?
As a working mom and wife, it’s easy to get so wrapped up in what others need that I neglect what I need to be at my best. When self-neglect becomes a habit, we end up running on empty. We become emotionally and physically exhausted. Our memory fails and we become forgetful. We make poor decisions. We overreact to others with irritability, hostility, and cynicism rather than patience, kindness, and gentleness. We buy and eat things on impulse. And we binge-watch shows or movies on TV or Netflix Or if you’re like me, you may even forget to eat, follow-up with a friend, or forget to pick up your kid from school. Ugh. As much as I hate to admit it, I was that mom.
When I find myself in this type of emotional and mental space, I HALT. I stop and ask myself, am I Hungry, Angry, Lonely or Tired. If the answer is yes to any of these things, I commit to taking action to resolve it. When I realize I haven’t eaten all day (usually because I get a bad headache or stomachache), I stop what I’m doing and eat. When I feel exhausted, I take a mini-break, bask in the sunshine, take a nap or go to bed early. If I’m angry about something, then I create some space for quiet self-reflection to discover WHY and then take action to manage my emotions in a healthy way. Sometimes this looks like praying, reading my bible, listening to music, journaling or talking through my feelings with my husband.
If you are neglecting the care of yourself during this global pandemic, I want to encourage you to HALT so you can connect with your physical body and take action in meeting your physical needs. Once we have our physical needs met, we can take action to address our emotional needs for love/belonging and assess our self-worth meter. Once those are met, we can move toward higher-level needs where we seek to actualize our God-given potential and pour into others. But REMEMBER. Jesus is the only one who can meet your every need. If you’d like some practical self-care tips and strategies to help you connect with yourself so you can take care of yourself better, check out this post.
It’s extremely difficult to give others what we don’t have. If we don’t feel loved, it’s hard to give love. If we have low self-esteem, it’s hard to esteem others. But once we get our lower level (or survival) needs met, we can move toward thriving in the self-actualization zone.
ACTUALIZE YOUR POTENTIAL
For me, actualizing my potential is rooted in my God-given: identity, purpose, passions, and power. I believe the key to living out my God-given potential is living in God’s presence. Because it’s in His presence that I’m transformed. It’s in His presence that I discover who I really am and what I’m fully capable of through His grace, spirit, and power. It’s in His presence that I receive insight into my unique purpose and mission. And it’s in God’s presence that I receive clarity of direction to live out His vision for my life. Purposefully. Passionately. And unapologetically.
During this global pandemic, we have the unique opportunity to connect with God and gain more clarity from Him on who He created us to be and what He created us to do. We also have the opportunity to connect with ourselves and work to develop/strengthen our mindset toward one of growth, victory, abundance, and hope. And we have the opportunity to strengthen our spirit AND our emotional health. Connecting with our physical, emotional, mental and spiritual state is vital to us taking the necessary action in being our best self we can bring our best self to those we lead, love, work with and serve.
But will we decide to maximize these opportunities in order to grow and be transformed? Are we willing to take the necessary action to strengthen our mind, body, and spirit? Let me ask you this. Will you come out of this pandemic better or bitter? Wiser or wimpier? Resilient or resentful? The choice is yours. You can choose to squander this time and neglect you. Neglect your goals. Neglect your mental-emotional health. Neglect renewing your mind. And neglect your spiritual development. Or, you can choose to work on your God-inspired goals. Your God-given purpose. And develop your God-given gifts. ONLY YOU get to decide who you will become during AND after this crisis. I hope you’ll decide to maximize this time of “sheltering at home” to work on, connect with, invest in, and strengthen YOU.
Friend, I want to encourage you to commit to how you will work on you in this season.
- What action will you take in developing our mind, body, and spirit?
- What action will you take to renew your mind and gain a fresh perspective on your life?
- What action will you take to discover OR move forward in your God-given purpose?
- What action will you take each day to develop your natural AND spiritual gifts?
Please don’t miss this opportunity to develop yourself. Because the investments you make in yourself now contribute to your impact, harvest and legacy tomorrow. So let’s go BIG on developing ourselves through Christ while “sheltering at home.” Your future self will thank you. xoxo
GET RESOURCED. GET EQUIPPED.
For more tips on how to invest in/develop yourself during this corona crisis, check out this FACE COVID resource by Dr. Russ Harris and gain some strategies for responding effectively to the corona crisis using principles of acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT).