stuck in a rut

Stuck in a Rut? Try these 4 simple strategies and get unstuck.

Are you heart-sick?

What comes to mind when you think of the word HOPE? Some of the words that come to my mind are aspirations, goals, dreams, ambitions, wishes, longings and expectations. Hope is believing you will obtain something you don’t already have.


And when your hope is deferred, your heart becomes sick—weary, burdened, heavy, overwhelmed, distraught or distressed. And when your heart remains sick, you may find yourself stuck in a rut of despair and depression. Ever been there?

Hope-LESS or Hope-FULL?

So my question to you is what hopes and dreams do you long to see fulfilled? What do you do when that hope in your heart has been deferred for so long that you stop believing it’ll actually come to pass?


Often times, hope deferred not only makes us sick, but it can also keep us stuck in our feelings. We may find ourselves feeling disregarded, forgotten, forsaken or unloved by God. Why is it that we often equate our unrealized hopes with being abandoned, unloved or forgotten by God?


It’s SO easy to get caught up in our feelings when life hasn’t turned out the way we had imagined, isn’t it? And rather than feel the disappointment of unfulfilled longings, it’s easier to just give up hoping and dreaming.


It’s easier to stop dreaming and decide it’s easier to just accept where you are and not hope for more. Right? Have no expectation and therefore have no disappointment right? So how do you remain hope-full when things look so hopeless?


Where should you place your hope?

For starters, so many of us choose to place our hope in ourselves, our income, our positions, our achievements, attractiveness, personality or performance. And when we do this, we will ALWAYS come up short because we can only see our story in part (1 Cor. 13:9). How in the world can we possibly know what God is wiring up on our behalf with our limited perspective, understanding, and insight?


When you keep your eyes on what you see (or don’t see), your heart can become sick and stuck in a rut of disappointment and despair. And we end up believing God has let us down in some way –as if we really knew what was best for us right?


So how do you get out of the rut of despair, disappointment or even depression because of deferred hopes? Here are a few things that helped to break out of my rut of despair and disappointment due to deferred hopes and dreams.


4 Strategies For Getting Out of Your Rut 

1. Remind yourself of God’s Truth. 

Remind yourself that: I am loved with an everlasting love (Jer. 31:3), I am not abandoned or forsaken (Heb. 13:5), I will see the goodness of God (Ps. 27:13), I have a good and prosperous future (Jer.29:11), I can do all things (Phil. 4:13), I am a wonderful masterpiece (Eph 2:10), chosen and called by God (1.Pt.2:9).

2. Steep your life in God-provision and God initiative.

Remind yourself that God is good, all powerful, all knowing, all present and all-sufficient. He is the Great I am. Focus on what He wants to give you and not on what you are trying to get. Focus on what He’s doing in your life right now and don’t worry about what may (or may not) happen tomorrow or in your future (Mt. 6:34).

3. Forget about self-confidence. 

Stop thinking you are capable of getting yourself unstuck. Cultivate God-Confidence by trusting in His goodness and ability to provide you with everything you need for life and godliness (2 pt. 1:3). Getting unstuck is often a spiritual battle and it must be fought with spiritual weapons. Because apart from God, we can do nothing (Jn.15:5).

4. Remind yourself of who is actually responsible for fulfilling your hopes and dreams.

Is it your responsibility to ensure your dreams are fulfilled or is it God’s? Are you the hero or captain of your life or is God? Do you believe you are the author, fulfiller and finisher of your life story or is God? I don’t know about you but I am going with Ps. 138:8 that says “The Lord will fulfill his purpose for me.” Y’all, that’s good news because it’s not your responsibility to fulfill His purpose for your life. What a liberating truth to know this responsibility does not fall on YOU!


When I think there is some sort of delay, denial or deferral to the fulfillment of my hopes and dreams, I choose to trust God who knows what’s best for me.

Placing your hope in God

When you choose to steep your heart in God-provision and God-initiative, you don’t have to be preoccupied with getting your hopes and longings fulfilled.


You can get out of your rut by simply relaxing, resting and responding to all God is currently giving you and plans to give you in the future. You don’t need to worry about missing out on anyone or anything. Can I get an AMEN!?


Instead of dwelling on every unfulfilled longing, choose to surrender. Choose to trust and believe God will supply all your needs and give you exactly what you need when you need it.


When we can learn to place ALL of our hope in God, I believe we’ll find every longing of our hearts fulfilled in Him. I can’t promise you this is easy to do, but I promise you it’s the wisest thing you can do.

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  • Keyanna Irby March 30, 2019   Reply →

    This blog is so timely and truly helpful for the current situations I’m facing!!! I can honestly say I’m in a rut and feeling super low but I don’t have to stay because I have God!

    • Radhika Cruz March 30, 2019   Reply →

      Indeed my sister!! Our hope comes from the Lord!! Even when our dreams, goals and plans seem to be delayed or deferred, we can trust in His perfect timing and rest assure knowing He will fufill His purpose and plans for our lives. Our role is is trust. His role is to perfom. Love you sis and so glad this blessed you!! I love hearing how these words are blessing others!

    • Radhika Cruz April 24, 2019   Reply →

      Yay! So happy to hear this!! I’m right with ya sis!!

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